District champions, State champions, MVP, Valedictorian, the winner…… all these phrases represent a state of being that explains a sort of supremacy over an alternative. An entitled award that names those who over come the competition. These titles are continually sought after by general populations and respected as positive notions.
This drive to strive to win is instilled at a young age, we learn it everywhere we go in everything we do. From playing games at home to playing little league sports. Academics also encourages a competitiveness to win. This drive to excel and be above the competition can prove to be a great aptitude in many of life’s aspects.
There are a few parts of life, however, that are better off without this winning competitiveness. Marriage is one of those aspects that rarely benefits from such behaviors. As hard as it may seem it is important to set aside this innate need to win. Many times couples find themselves in a you vs me situation, a situation that tears the bonds of companionship. Arguments can escalate to become an issue of who is right instead of what is right.
Marriage is not the only time we should set aside the urge to win, there so many others usually times when a decision needs to be made by a deciding body.
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